Tag: Business

  • Why enjoying money can stop the money struggles

    There are a lot of people who resent money. They feel like money is a “necessary evil” but that they’d rather not have it around if they could just get by and do their thing without it.

    I used to be one of those.

    And here’s the thing. That’s a money repellant attitude. You can never have enough money if you think of money as a necessary evil, rather than a good thing.

    Money represents energy. It represents transformation. And to some, it represents power.

    I think that a lot of the haters only see the “power” function of money, and resent that part of it. It represents to them other people’s power over them.

    Yet that’s not why money exists. Money wasn’t created originally as a means to power – it was created as a means to exchange energy, value, and transformation.

    In some cases it has been corrupted towards uses other than that originally intended – but so has every other creation we make as humans. It is a tool, and like any other tool can be used for good or for bad.

    As an analogy, let me ask you this. Let’s say that for some reason you hate hammers and resent them. Yet you find yourself having to pound some nails to shore up your floorboards. Having this negative attitude towards hammers, will you do a good, efficient job of hammering those nails in?

    It’s quite unlikely. Resentment will make it difficult to engage with the hammer’s most effective use. You might find yourself smashing your thumb, turning it blue-and-black as you howl in agony. Then you talk to your friend and say: “See, this is why I hate hammers. I always hurt myself with them.” Talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy of hammer doom.

    Money, like a hammer, is a tool. Just a far more powerful and versatile one. So, do you think that money resentment will have any different effect than hammer-resentment? Of course not. Resentment and ill-will towards it just means that you’re turning it into a tool that is going to backfire on you. You cannot safely and effectively use because of your attitude towards it.

    Look, I get it. For several years in my business, I was “afraid” of how things were going monetarily and didn’t even look at my accounts on a regular basis. I saw money as something that was a “necessary evil” rather than as something good. We had many ups and downs – and even a few near crisis moments – as a result. 

    Money is the most powerful tool we have on the planet today to get things done. It helps us cause the transformations we want to cause – whether those are personal, scientific, business – or whatever.

    To have a poor relationship with money is disempowering.

    If you’ve got something important to create here in this life, you need money to facilitate it. Since money is essential to creating, having personal power, and having transformative experiences, it’s something worth developing a positive relationship with.

    Enjoy money, nurture money, and treat it like the powerful tool that it is. It will take you far.

  • Fun Killers are Productivity Killers, Part I

    Fun Killers are Productivity Killers, Part I

    Why do you want to be more “productive?” Why are there so many productivity books, products, courses, and gurus?

    If you examine this question, productivity isn’t quite what it seems. Lots of people (moi included) have fallen into the trap of seeking productivity for the sheer sake of “being more productive because that’s what we’re supposed to do.”

    But why?

    If you think about it, this is programming we carry around that is a) bogus and b) fun-killing. If you think about the source of this programming, we can go back to the factories of the Industrial era, with bosses lording over “production” to assure that it didn’t lag.

    Notice the similarity between the word “production” and “productivity?” Yeah.

    You are a tool

    The implication is that you are a tool for cranking out stuff (otherwise known as a “robot”). The more stuff a robot cranks out, the better the robot! The more we reward the robot. Yay! Good Robot!

    Um, no thanks. Not the way I want to live my life. And hopefully not the way you want to live yours. Being someone’s pet robot is not in my life plan.

    I can anticipate the objection now (hey, I’ve done enough grant writing that I am pretty good at figuring out what those objections might be, in advance).

    Your objection may be something like this:

    • If I produce more, I will earn more money and/or other rewards (like promotions or Nobel prizes).
    • If I earn more money and/or other rewards, I will be happier
    • Therefore, producing more means more happiness!

    Yes, I talk to a LOT of people who have this kind of implicit (and almost always unexamined) belief system.

    It’s not helping you…

    Let me count the ways in which this belief system does not serve you.

    1) Producing more does not lead to more money or other rewards. It is NEVER about the quantity, unless you’re on an assembly line or a farm. If you are doing anything even mildly creative in your work, it is about the QUALITY and NEWNESS of what you do, way more than quantity!

    (Imagine if your humble author went on a robot-like “productivity” binge and wrote 3 blog posts per day of blah blah blah blah blah… where would that get her? Um… nowhere! Or, perhaps having a Comp Sci degree, she could use an artificial intelligence program to auto-generate lots of blog posts? um…. blech)

    2) More money and/or other rewards do not equal more happiness. Quite often, the opposite occurs. People often have this ego that thinks these things will make it feel satisfied, but the ego is NEVER satisfied.

    For example, I had a client who recently had few HUGE wins in her life. A few days after the ego-led euphoria of those wins wore off, it was “back to normal” – but worse.

    It was “worse” because the big wins put additional pressure on her to “live up to” the wins and to “not screw it up.” So here she was, less than a week after some things that would create envy among many other people – feeling more doubt and concern than ever. (Fortunately, we worked through that and she’s back on track!)

    Those wins, like money and stuff, never produce lasting joy or satisfaction. So why is it that we often spend much of our lives striving for them?

    Ego programming. The ego is not by itself “bad” (and you’re not going to get rid of it in this life anyway). However, through various experiences with various people in our lives, we pick up ego programming that tells us that seeking fame or fortune or stability or security is for our highest good. And we carry that programming through life, unexamined, it shaping most of our actions and experiences without us even knowing it.

    And so we end up pursuing goals that are shallow, ego-led goals, never finding the long-lasting joy or satisfaction that is our birthright as a human.

    For many of my readers, you may be more in the category of “seeking security” or “seeking stability” rather than “fame and fortune.” You may even have some judgement relative to those people who seek fame and fortune, thinking of them as ego-driven, while thinking of yourself as not so ego-driven.

    I encourage you to think about that for a moment. What generates the need for security or stability for many people? Fear – i.e. not wanting insecurity, fear of the unknown, fear of the future, fear of what will happen, fear of things not going well, etc.

    Where does fear come from? Ego programming! Fear is only and always about ego. It is just a different form of ego programming. Yet it can take over your life in an insidious manner that’s far less than the obvious ego programming that leads to seeking fame and fortune.

    We live in an ego led world, and I am an ego girl…

    Okay, the line from the song by Madonna didn’t fit this expression so well, but I will proceed nonetheless….

    We live in a very ego-led world. It is rare to encounter someone who has seriously undertaken a path of attempting to live at a deeper level, one that strives to constantly go deeper than the ego-programming and to live from the CORE. That means living in the NOW, enjoying each moment, being in the flow, and creating!

    So, we tore apart the notion that “producing more will produce more happiness.” It’s bogus.

    I don’t think that anyone truly wants to “be productive.” (Have you EVER met a small child who says “I want to be PRODUCTIVE today?” I didn’t think so.)

    No, I think that people want to have harmony, adventure, joy, fun, excitement, intrigue, love, connection and similar feelings/experiences. And we need to get rid of the notion that more productivity somehow leads directly to more of those things.

    It often leads to exactly the opposite – especially in our over-jacked, hyped up, always-on society. We often get sucked into “being productive” for the sake of “being productive” and then these other things become ever more elusive. That’s bogus.

    So, in part II of the article, we’re going to do a logical trick that is going to blow your mind (or at least tweak it a tiny bit) – to redefine the relationship of productivity to your fun and to your life.

    Stay tuned……

  • Is your life ruled by "Lizard Brain?"

    Is your life ruled by "Lizard Brain?"

    Chances are, it is.

    If you have difficulty making tough decisions…

    If you have far too much on your plate and not enough time for it all…

    If you suffer from procrastination or perfectionism…

    If you like to wait until money is assured BEFORE you invest in yourself….

    If you regularly listen to the news and react with anger/frustration/fear…..

    These are signs that your LIMBIC system has control. The limbic brain came from our reptilian ancestors… eat, have sex, and run away from danger. That’s about it. It’s pretty good for those things… if that’s all you think your life should amount to, then keep on doing just that.

    And here’s where it will lead to:

    * As an entrepreneur, you’ll go from one marketing/sales program to the next, looking for the “magic bullet” that saves your hide. But somehow the hide-saving never quite happens. Meanwhile, you never seem to overcome those “hurdles” that keep rearing their ugly head each time… as you overwork yourself to the point of being ready to go back to a day job.

    * As a researcher, you will be scratching and clawing to get that next grant. You’ll procrastinate and perfect, spending nearly all your time on the small stuff, never finding the time for the big stuff that would move your life and career forward. You’ll know you’re capable of SO MUCH MORE and you scratch your head, wondering why you never seem to quite BE the SO MUCH MORE that you are.

    This lizard brain is very tricky… it not only keeps us shrinking back in fear from taking the big leaps that will truly make a difference… but it ALSO keeps us chasing after one “holy grail” after another to keep us entertained … just one more launch, just one more grant, just one more XXXYYYZZZ until salvation! Yay!

    As long as you are ruled by the FEAR (well disguised so that your ego doesn’t have to admit that you’re afraid – “who, me? I’m NOT AFRAID!”)… and as long as you are ruled by the chase-the-next-easy-out… your life, your business, your career will go NOWHERE.

    I can say that with confidence because I have previously let the fear infect me… I have let the lizard brain take over. Too many times. Each time I have gone backwards on money, relationships, and health. It was only by taking charge again (and getting good help) that I regained control.

    The only way to leave the lizard brain behind is connecting with your higher self. Scientifically that is your neocortex. Spiritually that is your core, or your “soul.” Operating from that place is THE OPPOSITE of being ruled by lizard-brain. It’s chill, it’s abundant, it’s fun, it’s easy.

    Beware lizard brain: it’s a big investment. And because this is what you might NEED, rather than being another easy little shiny-object or delaying tactic, you are probably firing full out right now. Red light. Red light. Scary. Let’s click onto the next post, or go get a coffee and procrastinate… again! Tomorrow will be better, or maybe the next day, or the day after that. Yes. That’s the easy way out. Lizard likes EASY. Yay!

    Well, if your higher self is watching all of that lizard brain stuff, and ready to actually TAKE CHARGE and do something about becoming the BEST person you can be (which will ONLY happen when you learn new habits to operate from the HIGHER SELF), then reach out to me. Like I said, one spot – that’s it for now.

  • Declaration of Boundary

    Declaration of Boundary

    DECLARATION of BOUNDARY. No more “FREE” ride.

    In the past two years:

    I helped one person get her email list going and get at least 20k worth of new clients, along with building massive momentum forward in her business… for FREE.

    I helped another person clarify his business and immediately double his revenues… along with sorting out a lot of other issues holding him back from building a 500k/yr business… for FREE

    I helped a third person work through personal issues and overcome multiple hurdles in balancing a very challenging day job with building a business… bringing in 10’s of thousands of dollars of clients…for FREE

    and the list goes on (I have more examples, I just don’t want it to become a ridiculously long post)

    Doing this for FREE is disrespectful of myself and my family. It is disrespectful of people who do pay for my help. It is disrespectful to the person receiving the “free” help, because it’s the equivalent of taking without giving, causing a karmic imbalance.

    Each of these people I helped were PAYING other mentors at the time I helped them, and used that as a reason to justify why they wanted to continue getting FREE help and input from me.

    I know that I caused this. Nobody is to blame but myself. I have held poor boundaries on the value of what I do.

    So, this is a public declaration of a new boundary: if you want my help fixing your work, your business, or your life, don’t come to me looking for “FREE.” Nothing is truly “FREE” and you get what you pay for.

    I do damn good work for my clients. I love them and help them deeply. From now on I’ll be focusing all my efforts on those who understand and value that.

    And – if you are someone who likes to approach people and get “free” advice, think about how the world will mirror that back to you in your work or business.

  • It’s the experience, stupid!

    No, I’m not calling you stupid, dear reader. But I AM calling a common myth in business stupid.

     

    The myth goes something like this: open up your business, deliver a great product at a great price (and THEN discount it more if you need to), and business will come a knockin’ down at your doors.

     

    I see all sorts of retail outlets following this model. And failing. (That includes my very own former bike shop, Cycle 9)

     

    In the past month alone, I’ve seen two local places go down, one a wine shop, and the other a clothes store. I walked by with sadness, noting two more needless victims.

     

    It’s not JUST retail that succumbs to this. But retail is a great place to illustrate the myth – a myth that is a killer in any modern business.

     

    The horrible shoe experience

     

    I have big feet for a girl. Almost bigfoot sized.

     

    None of the local shops carries shoes for bigfoot.  Last time I asked at one of the local retail outlets, they said enthusiastically “we can order them for you!” So I asked in return: “If they don’t fit, will you return them?” They said, “No, we can’t afford to do that, we’re just a small shop!”

     

    There’s a reason they’re a small shop. It’s because of their answer, not the other way around!

     

    In so many words, their answer told me this: they are there to sell the goods that they have in stock, according to some arbitrary decision they made a year ago when they ordered the shoes.

     

    They are NOT there to give me a great experience so that I want to come back again and again.

     

    They are just there to sell me stuff…

     

    Do I need more “stuff??” No fucking way. I’ve got plenty of stuff! I want something else.

     

    It’s something that nearly every customer with lots of choices these days is looking for, but that many small business owners like this shop doesn’t understand.

    It’s killing businesses to not understand this.

     

    Before giving you the answer, let’s think about one more example:

     

    Why online spells the death of retail (until owners wake up)

     

    I got tired of being told to just buy some boy’s shoes every time I went into a local shop. Boy’s shoes are so damn boring. Hell, back when I was a boy, it seemed like they had more variety. I remember having sandals with purple straps at one point. But no. Now it’s all brown, olive green, and black. Gawdamn.

     

    Just because my feet are big doesn’t mean I want to wear camo green and brown shoes!  No thank you.

     

    I got tired of being looked at like I was a Big Foot mutant with green fur every time I asked for large women’s shoes, so now I buy all my shoes online at the big Z (Zappos).  They have a great selection, they send stuff very quickly, and they have a very liberal return policy!

     

    While I’m at it, I often buy other stuff. Just like I do if I’m in a local store and buy something – I’m more likely to buy something else with it.

     

    So the business owner that sells me shoes also sells me other stuff!

     

    Lots of people shop online these days, because it’s fast, there’s a huge selection, it’s easy to compare prices, read reviews, etc.

     

    How can any small business compete against this?

     

    By focusing on the experience, not the products (DAMMIT!)

     

    When I went into that shoe store I was looking for the experience of being told that I am wanted as a customer. I was looking for the experience of being catered to (within reason). I was wanting them earn their markup by helping me find a great pair of shoes, without me having to do a bunch of research on my own.

     

    See, although I shop at Zappos, there’s a BIG drawback. – a big deficiency to that experience. It can take an hour of time to wade through all the massive number of choices to figure out what’s the right one. I don’t have time for that. So I don’t often do it.

     

    That’s why I’m still wearing the same damn brown (men’s) sandals I’ve had for at least 3 years.

     

    If that local store could give me the experience of simply solving that problem for me, I’d shop there in a heartbeat. If they saved me time, made me feel great, made me feel “normal” rather than like an alien, Zappos would have some tough competition.

    But these local business owners, most of them are like me when I owned my bike shop.

     

    They think it’s about the stuff. They think it’s about the money. They think it’s about the markup.

     

    It’s about NONE of those things.

     

    It’s about the experience!

     

    With choices everywhere for customers these days – often leaving them totally overwhelmed (like I am when I see 100’s of choices online) – it’s the experience that differentiates. It is the experience that determines whether someone will return, or not.

     

    Disneyland vs the local amusement park

     

    Last night I was at a party. One of the moms complained about how Disneyland was so much more expensive than some other amusement parks. Based on that – and because she then talked about how she won’t even pay for a Kindle book because it’s “too expensive” so she checks it out of a library – it’s clear she’s a “bargain shopper.”

     

    The temptation as a business owner is to cater to people like that. It’s tempting to join the race to the bottom. I’ll write another time about that, but it spells death.

     

    Ask yourself – as a retirement investment, would you rather own Disneyland, or a local amusement park?  Which would give you the higher yield?

     

    If you answered the “Big D” there’s a reason why. It’s not that Disney has bigger and better rides. Or better prices.

     

    Nope, none of that.

     

    It’s the experience. People plan their vacations around going to Disney – with expensive plane tickets and hotels. Who does that for the small, local amusement park? Almost nobody.

     

    That’s because the Disney experience is unique. For the right kind of person (hint: kids either in body or mind) it is THE place to go.

     

    Disney has created an experience, not just amusement parks. It’s not an experience for anyone or everyone. No experience is.

     

    For example, I don’t particularly want to experience knitting at this point in my life. People who do like knitting probably don’t want to experience crazy whitewater kayaking down class IV rapids.

     

    What we each want to experience is unique to us and our interests. Different businesses need to cater to different desires for experience.

    You’re convinced that “it’s the experience, stupid” – so how to create that?

     

    It’s a big topic. I can’t cover it all in one little blog post, but I’ll hit some highlights with a few key things you’ll want to consider:

     

    1. 1. What “experience niche” are you targeting? Some marketing gurus will have you identify a particular demographic niche you’re going to serve.  That’s a lot better than having no clue (like I did with my bike shop). BUT, even better than demographic niching is to identify the “experience niche.” For example, if you are creating an online knitting membership site, you could identify women between 50 and 65 as your niche. Yet there are many women in that age range who have zero interest in knitting, and there are probably some men that DO have an interest.  What would work much better is to ask yourself: what kind of knitting experience do these people want to have? What are they looking for? The answer might be: social interaction, inspiration for new designs, etc… Those answers will lead you to thinking about the experience you are delivering, and how to deliver it. This is how you should do your niche targeting!
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    3. 2. You can charge more if you deliver a better experience to the right people at the right time.  One of the business-killers I see all around is the under-pricing of goods and services. It’s endemic (and lazy) to think that lowering prices will bring more customers. Often, lower prices make people think the thing you’re offering is less desirable. Instead, rather than lowering prices, think about improving the experience. People will pay for that. It’s why Pink Floyd can charge over $300 for concert tickets when they play a show.
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    5. 3. Consider: What emotions am I generating in customers? What emotions do I want to generate in them? If you’re thinking about your products/services as just “stuff” you are ignoring the most important thing: the emotions of your customer! People buy for emotional reasons, always and every time. Rationality is just there to provide a good-sounding justification for it after the fact.  Most people want to experience a feeling of belonging. A feeling of safety. A feeling of fun. Those kinds of things. So, once you’ve identified whom you’re serving, then identify “how do they want to feel?” Finally, figure out how you can help them do that. That is the magic formula, my friends. When you can generate those feelings for your clients, nothing will stop you.  It’s like me and my shoes. I want to feel belonging, fun, and ease with my shoe shopping. Nobody really provides that experience as of yet. I’d pay twice as much if someone did. I’d be a dedicated customer for life (or at least the next decade!). Why does almost nobody do this?

     
    Now, if you want to have your own experience of support, help, and understanding related to your business challenges (like growing your business without it taking over your whole life), then you’ll want to sign up for my newsletter, video series on über-productivity, and the creative wealth e-book. All for totally free. I want you to have a great experience, before you ever become a customer!

    Have fun, always,

    Morgan

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